Wednesday, 8 August 2012

Grief, mourning, bereavement

When teaching we dealt with grief, I have written about this process. Children's fears must be addressed. On 9/11, the principal where I was teaching got on the loud speaker and told the entire elementary school about the twin towers. The children were afraid to walk home, afraid a plane would kill them. We talk about bereavement and mourning a great deal. Teachers are wise to address this, and school boards send in Trauma Teams when there is an incident.
This is a celebration of life. I've made videos of my boys:
 Kittens in castle, shows their playfulness; KITTENS in the swamp, as my boys liked to play in the wetland, and didn't realize that the floating water lily leaves weren't able to hold their weight! I had to wash them off in the bathtub, as they smelled pretty swampy!

Cat and mouse standoff

Buster caught a mouse out in our backyard. Sadie was watching carefully, non-pussed. 

The brothers argued about a mouse one of them caught. They don't hesitate to steal one another's captures! 
I made a collage of their antics:

Grief is the emotional response to loss - of loved ones, job, home, family situation; divorce.

Bereavement is a state you are in after a loss, with many cultures having specific traditions for mourning.
burrs, again!

The mourning process is one based in culture and values, with rituals surrounding the practice. I remember helping a student write her grandfather's eulogy. The priest wouldn't let her read it in church, but she read it at the wake.

The one ritual I had in my classroom was to read the Tenth best Thing About Barney whenever a child experienced a loss - for the loss affected the entire classroom. In this story: a child loses a cat and the family tries to find ten wonderful things about their late pet.


DeniseinVA said...

Grief needs to be addressed no matter how painful and not stored away to cripple one's heart. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Linda said...

My heart hurts for you, Jenn.

EG CameraGirl said...

I'm so glad you have these videos!