It is a comfortable read, not 'easy', as it requires you to become thoughtful about your caregiving habits and do some internal work. Also, this book will assist you whether you live in Canada, with universal healthcare, or in the US with convoluted insurance company plans. It will help those employed, those with money, or with limited means.
I found Yosaif August writes as if I was listening to an uncle, or a caring family member, or counsellor, who had wise words of wisdom, keeping my needs in mind, and providing words of comfort. I must admit that while I was caring for my late mother (who was having chemotherapy), while my brother was caring for my late father (who was having radiation treatments), I did not reach out. This was a huge mistake, but I was very depressed.
|My late parents, |
Joan & Ray
In my situation, as with many, we aren't sure what we need, or what supports might help. This is an excellent workbook, that demands we make a plan, and think of ourselves, in order to be able reach out. There are some great charts, with spaces where we might check off some issues that may be jeopardizing our mental and physical health, as caregivers, such as boundary setting, sense of humour, toughness, perseverance, resilience. Another chart helps us plan and create a To Do list, and to become thoughtfully organized.
|Dad in long-term care|
I must point out that caregivers may or may not live with, or near, their care recipients. In the chat rooms, where I go to support caregivers, many are discouraged by living a distance away; Canadian Virtual Hospice, as well as Aging Care Caregiver Forum (USA), are places to go.
August outlines several resources where we can co-ordinate care, from afar, and finding solutions to the dilemmas that plague some caregivers. Caregiver stress, as many will attest, may be confounded by circumstances they may not have chosen, but this book will help you determine your strengths, weaknesses, and formulate strategies for sorting yourself out.
This book is a great resource for:
• caregivers, especially anyone who may be at risk of burning out.
• friends/family/lovers of caregivers.
• professional caregivers – to support caregivers in making the best use of this valuable resource.
One of the best ideas from his book, are caresites where you can create blogs or pages to find support.
|Yosaif August |
is a life coach
August shares six coaching tips to help resilient caregivers, and can discuss:
-- How to transform your resistance to reaching out, and feel positive about it.
-- 13 of the smartest and dumbest things to do when reaching out.
-- How to ask for help and support without losing the family's privacy.
--Where to find the best resources for caregivers.